whenicameout:
I came out to my mother today and she was stunned for a moment. Then she informed me, with a smile on her face, that I must be mistaken. Because she herself finds women beautiful that doesnt mean that it should mean anything for me. She then proceeded to tell me it was something disgusting and she…
Hey there, I tried to go to your tumblr and post an ask, but it looks like you don’t have that enabled. So uh, hope you get this instead.
I kinda know what you’re going through. My own mother wrote it off as something that couldn’t be, at least, with regard to me. She knows being gay/bi/whatever exists, but for me, it “can’t be.” What’s worse is that I told her I’m bi (which I am) and now she thinks that I have a choice between a boy and a girl. It’s like giving her some ray of hope that I still find men attractive and will prefer to be with one in the future. (Note, I currently have a girlfriend I love very much.)
My mom also says I’m too young to know what I’m talking about, and I’m 18. It’s like their excuse. In any case, I say it’s probably best to let it go for now. The more you argue, the more stress it’ll cause, because it seems like she’s pretty inflexible with her opinions for now. Personally, I’d say give it time. If she loves you, eventually, she’ll at least acknowledge it. My mom still doesn’t like it (I think), but she at least acknowledges that I care about my girlfriend.
I just personally don’t like conflicts. If it’s gonna escalate into a huge problem, I wouldn’t really talk about it. Forget about it for now and just be you in the mean time. You haven’t changed a bit, she just learned something new about you. I hope she comes to realize that eventually, and that she accepts it. But if you feel the need to convince her now, I wish you the best!
Thank you for the responce. I tried convincing her but in the end we both stood our grounds and she went off saying that she wouldn’t argue with a child. Atleast she said that she appreciates that I had the bravery to come out to her. I won’t pressure her anymore for this and in 2 years when she asks me if I made up my mind… we’ll see what her responce is then.